Sarah Smith’s Path to Healing

Hey me,

I was actually able to see how much I have grown in the last, well honestly, 8 years.

Someone from my past tried to get me to do something for them and I was able to not just set boundaries but I was even able to reinforce them.

I know that I am going to be the “bad person” in their story now but it doesn’t matter to me because I know what the cost would have been to be the good one. Even if I had taken that responsibility on, I know I would have been the “bad guy” if I had failed to do exactly as that person wanted the outcome to be.

So now that I decided that I will not carry that burden, I am not responsible for the outcome. That person will still blame me but I have not really done anything to be blamed for. I even gave them some advice on how they could handle the situation.

I know that I still feel a little guilty for not handling the situation because I know I would have had a better solution and I would have done it smarter, but if I handle this situation for that person, then they will never learn and will turn to me again if something similar happens.

So I am deciding that I am going to be proud of how I handled the situation and I will accept that I still feel bad about leaving that person to their own devices.

I started typing why I chose to “leave” that, “abandon” that person but honestly, I don’t need to. I don’t need to explain why I said no. If something isn’t what I want to do then I don’t have to do it.

Being able to say no to things that I don’t want to do for other people has made it easier to say yes to things that I don’t want to do for myself. That is the key point. It was not my responsibility so I don’t have to take responsibility for it. Full stop.

No explaining. No reasons. No justifying.

I said no and that’s enough.

Be proud of your decision. It wasn’t an easy one.

Lots of love

Me