Sarah Smith’s Path to Healing

Hey me,

Someone liked an old post of mine (How to Break a Heart), and it made me realise something. I am actually keeping and have kept my promise.

I am looking for all the reasons why and all the ways that I am being loved. I am not looking for red flags. I am not looking for all the things that could go wrong. Would I find them if I went looking for them? Probably.

So what am I doing differently this time? I am choosing to address things before they become a problem. I am choosing to talk openly about things that hurt me or bug me. I am not hiding and hoping that it will go away. I am not sitting by while waiting for everything to collapse. I am actively working to make this a healthy and happy relationship.

And I honestly feel so blessed and lucky to have a partner at my side who does the same. He probably doesn’t talk about every little thing that bothers him (I cannot be that perfect), but when I talk about the things that are important to me, he listens and he works through those things with me.

He works with me to make this relationship a happy and safe space for both of us.

I guess that’s all I ever wanted really… someone who creates an amazing emotional space with me. Someone who lets me know I am important without fussing too much or taking on all of the responsibility.

Neither of us are perfect… but it feels pretty damn good.

So I am truly glad for keeping that forgotten promise to myself… because it led me to this amazing situation.

I also realise how trustworthy I have become for myself because I have kept a promise I didn’t even remember making.

I am pretty awesome.

Lots of love

Me